A heart filled with love – for one child

Step into my world, where my heart is filled with love for one child. Having grown up as a single child, I always fantasized about a large family. But when the time came for me to become a parent, everything changed.

Growing up as an only child

I was an only child. I did wonder what it would be like to have siblings in my life. But I am not sure if it was really a loss. When I look back, I realize that my childhood was fuller and richer specifically because I was an only child. For example, our house was small, and another child would have forced us to move to a bigger house. Staying in our house meant that we were able to save money and enjoy adventures and annual trips.

In my childhood, I had always proclaimed that I wanted to have two children when I grew up. My partner, however, who grew up with several siblings, was intent on having only one child right from the start. We decided to leave the decision until after we had our first child.

And then Lucy arrived

I didn’t enjoy being pregnant with Lucy, our daughter. I was nauseous for a long time and then had to make many adjustments due to gestational diabetes. However, the delivery went smoothly, and I would do it again in a heartbeat. But once Lucy was there, I felt complete. The amount of love you can feel love for such a small creature is indescribable. The desire for a second child vanished completely.

Thirdly, financial considerations play a role as well. I want to give my daughter everything she needs in life. Perhaps she may want to take the most expensive course there is when she grows up? Then I want to give her those opportunities. I don’t want to limit Lucy’s options and opportunities. Also in terms of health costs. She is perfectly healthy now, and of course we hope it will stay that way. But you never know what life will bring you and what challenges we will have to face.

So my heart, our heart, is full: Full of love – for one child.

Being an only child, is that not rather pitiable?

And what do other people say? That is of no concern at all. People often ask us if there will be a second child. People should not ask such questions. No, we don’t want another one, and our opinion is clear. But what if we wanted to, but couldn’t?

“Choosing to have one child is choosing to pour all of your love, energy, and dedication into nurturing a single soul, ensuring it thrives in a world filled with endless possibilities.”